Poetry ~ Confessions

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Please say it isn’t so!
Look me in the eye
and tell me you didn’t know!
How my heart would break
if you broke your Word,
and my ears would burn
as the confession was heard!
How your guilt was more
than your heart could bear,
but my heart was something
that you couldn’t spare!
How you ripped from me
my one true treasure
– a trusting love
a gift beyond measure!

Then on your knees,
you did repent
and in my sorrow,
I did relent.
And over time
my heart did mend,
our love did grow
and did transcend.
And a deeper truth
came into view
that fairy tales were never true!
Our ‘happily ever after’
LOST!
betrayal forgiven,
but at a cost!

From the past,
our lessons are learned,
and in each moment
let our love be affirmed. 
Mindful of the future,
as only true love knows,
that suffering recedes,
where Wisdom grows.

What You Resist, Persists!

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Do you think it’s possible to live your life free of stress, problems, fear, and melodrama? Michael Singer tells us that a peaceful life is possible if we stop resisting life’s events. In his chapter entitled, The Spiritual Path of Nonresistance, Singer warns that resistance is a tremendous waste of energy.

“The fact is, you’re generally using your will to resist one of two things: that which has already happened or that which hasn’t happened yet. It is not life’s events that are causing problems or stress. It is your resistance to life’s events that is causing this experience.” ~Singer

He’s right! What’s the point of lamenting over something that’s already happened or wasting time and energy worrying about events that aren’t likely to happen? If there are lessons to be learned from the past or plans to be made for the future, those are best done in the present moment where your true power resides.

But let’s explore this idea of using our “will” to resist life’s events. Singer talks about how we can use our will power, or the Power of the Self, to block our own energy. This happens when we hold onto our thoughts and emotions instead of letting them pass through us.

“Stress only happens when you resist life’s events. If you’re neither pushing life away nor pulling it toward you, then you are not creating any resistance. You are simply present.” ~ Singer

We can also use the Power of the Self, to examine what we resist in life. Why do we resist some events and let others pass through without notice? Why do we care what some people think and not others? What offends us and causes us to become defensive? This process requires self-reflection without judgment.

 “You will be surprised to find that in most situations there is nothing to deal with except for your own fears and desires.” ~ Singer

If you look deep inside, your fears and desires will reveal themselves, unearthing the seeds of your suffering. The reality is, you have to stop watering the seeds! Through the process of awareness, you can stop the seeds from growing by letting the energy pass through you rather than resisting.

I’m reminded of the Taoist concept, “Wu-wei, effortless effort” which is another way of saying “do nothing and let go”.  In Taoist terms, there is a recognition that this world is beyond our control and to live a more peaceful existence we must practice patience and acceptance.

I don’t know that my life will ever be completely free of stress and drama but I take comfort in knowing that the extent of my mental suffering is based on how much energy I give my thoughts and emotions. I may not be able to control the world around me or the people in it, but I can control where I focus my energy.

This week try practicing the art of awareness. Stop and reflect when you find yourself pushing life away or pulling it toward you. Then, let it go.  Be patient with yourself and others as you walk the spiritual path of nonresistance.

~Namaste 

Monday Musing – Our Search for Meaning

Meaning Viktor FranklWe ask the age old questions: What’s life all about? Why am I made to suffer? What’s the meaning of my life? The answers to these questions are within our grasp, unique to each of us and accessible to all according to Viktor Frankl.

I recently read Viktor Frankl’s memoir, Man’s Search for Meaning, the story of his survival in the Nazi death camps during World War II. Before his imprisonment in Auschwitz, Victor Frankl was a prominent psychiatrist in Vienna.

After his liberation from the concentration camp in 1945, Frankl wrote his memoir. Throughout his book, he explains how our view of the world affects how we experience the world around us. He talks about his own spiritual growth while in the concentration camps,

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Life, he says is like a movie that we live frame by frame, and in each frame (the present moment) we find our purpose if we are willing to see.

Frankl goes on to explain it this way, “The meaning of life differs from man to man, day to day, hour to hour. What matters, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general but rather the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given moment.”

We see our life in pieces: fragments from the past, our perspective from the present moment, and our dreams and anxieties of the future. Yet we can’t see the entirety of our life – we can’t watch the movie of our life; we can only live it frame by frame. And it’s in each frame, each precious moment, that our purpose exists.

Viktor on Meaning FramedAs for suffering, Frankl, who endured incredible suffering during his three years in the death camps says, “If there is a meaning in life at all, then there must be a meaning in suffering…which is to transform a personal tragedy into a triumph, to turn one’s predicament into a human achievement. In some ways, suffering ceases to be suffering the moment it finds a meaning.” Although Frankl makes it clear that suffering is not required to find meaning in life, it does accelerate the process.

Our longing for the meaning of life is a shared human experience. Each of us has a purpose, a meaning in this human experience. We all have our gift(s) to share, art to create, love to embrace, suffering to endure and lessons to learn. If you’re seeking the meaning of life, look no further than yourself, for the answers lie within; right here, right now. If ever in doubt of your purpose, stop for a moment and count your blessings, be grateful and then perform random acts of kindness. There is purpose and meaning in acts of compassion that serve both you and humanity.

Now go forth and shine your light on the world and have a magical Monday! ~ Namaste